According to an article in an English magazine, "A true friend is one who has the courage to disagree with us when we are in the wrong, and advise us for our own good, rather than let his sympathy or sentimentality cause him to agree."
I never thought that 19 friends gonna like it and even left some comments:
- Amen...nice words for true friday morning te! Yes, it's truly nice words but could we really appreciate a friend who disagree with us when deep inside us we knew that we're wrong but still we're persistent to do such "wrong deeds" because we can't just let it go...because we could justify that "it's alright" at that moment?
- been there, dear...the result we're not friend anymore. it happened to me many times.."LOOY KO?" silay louy...(Pity me not. Pity them.) I've been in the same situation too. Because we're both Christians, I'm confident that she'll understand what I'm doing, that she'll remember that what I'm doing is in line with Proverbs 27:5 "Open rebuke is better that secret love" . Because I truly love her as a friend I confronted her in love, so that she'll not continue what she's doing. Rebuking her is because I love her and I only want what is good for her. Unfortunately, this doesn't work well for us. She said that if I truly love her I could tolerate what she does. I just can't do it. Confronting in love can be the most loving thing that I do for someone. It means if I care about someone, then I will care enough to stop her from driving off the road into sin to the destruction of her own soul. For me, if you stand by with your heart full of love and do nothing, it is not really love.
- I agree with the article but i doesn't apply to all kind of people. By the way it only talks about a true friend. Yes, this truth is applicable for true friends only and this is the priceless value of having at least one such deep abiding friendship.
- hahaha AGREE!!! pero ang problema... culturally speaking this is a big no no to most pinoys... kay mangluod or masuko ra bya dayun! hehehe...(but the problem is...culturally speaking, this is a big NO for most Filipinos because they feel bad or get angry when you do that) . I couldn't agree more. That's why after confronting a friend and she got angry with what I did, I tried to save our friendship by stepping back. This stops me from saying or doing something irretrievable. Giving myself a chance to chill out can put things in perspective. It's my prayer that I could still be a loving friend to her and saying "I told you so..." wouldn't have a chance to be blurted out from my mouth when we meet again.
I never thought I could make a post out from that simple act (posting words of wisdom on my FB wall). Out from my own experience , here's what you can do after the drama of confrontation and ends up being dumped as a friend:
1. Stay nice. It's tempting to unload the burden to other friends but it's better to be avoided. There are two sides to every story. She may be right in her own way and I may be right in my own perspective. It do me no credit to dis an ex-pal.
2. Understand her feelings. Don't respond to insults or gossips about the end of friendship. It will only make the matter worse than ever.
3. Lose the guilt. Focus on why you want to end the relationship. It is not that person you are rejecting but the way the two of you interact.
I thank God for the gift of friendship. I thank God for my friends. It's my prayer that He will help me to be a loving friend as He is a loving friend to me.
